Don’t Psychologize Friends and Coworkers

Do you “psychologize” your friends? Psychologizing is analyzing others in psychological terms—theorizing or speculating about their decisions or behaviors. To help cement a more trusting and helpful relationship with a coworker, discard this habit. Instead, practice empathy. For example, “Mary, that was a tough decision. How do you feel about it?” This approach will elicit stronger insight versus hearing what psychological dynamics you believe are affecting them. Plus, you’ll avoid the retort, “Stop analyzing me!” Acknowledging someone’s difficult experience, pain, or discomfort naturally precludes a judgmental response. It takes practice if you don’t communicate naturally this way. However, the affirming reaction will reinforce this communication skill, and you’ll appear less judgmental.

2/16/2023