Anticipating the Holidays with a Self-Care Plan

Try creating a “holiday self-care plan” this year if you are facing isolation, an overwhelming list of “to-dos,” coping with grief, or facing past hurts. Don’t let the season just nudge you along with uncertainties, big to-do lists, and anxiety. Self-care means deciding how you will maintain health and wellness. Decide what holiday events you will (or will not) attend, be assertive about asking for help and support, stick to a budget, and decide you won’t feel guilty for not hosting the big party this year. Add emotional wellness decisions, too. For example, try letting go of lingering resentment from that argument you had last year with your brother-in-law. Discover relief that comes from no longer replaying the exchange in your mind. For real impact, schedule treats or pampering experiences for yourself during the season. Their real value is serving as fun experiences you can look forward to when stressed. If grieving the loss of a loved one, decide how you will remember your loved one during the holidays. Give yourself the opportunity and permission to feel loss. Ask for support you need, and don’t resist feelings of expressing sorrow because you fear “ruining” the holidays for others. With a holiday self-care plan, you can anticipate less stress during the season. In time, you may be sharing your planning secrets with others who need them as you discover more positivity in the seasons to come.

12/2/2022